Just add a regular expression for the VCF file locations at the end of the store command:
tiledbvcf store --uri my_vcf_dataset *.bcf
Alternatively, provide a text file with the absolute locations of the VCF files, separated by a new line:
tiledbvcf store --uri my_vcf_dataset --samples-file samples.txt
Incremental updates work in the same manner as the ingestion above, nothing special is needed. In addition, the ingestion is thread- and process-safe and, therefore, can be performed in parallel.